Online Dating in A New Decade

Modern Online Dating Survey Results:

The following summary from a study of 100 urbanites details some insights gained as to how people seek out dates and potential life partners. Dating Online may not result in you getting the person of your dreams, but it may be a welcome distraction from all those hard to believe eHarmony.com and Match.com TV commercials that try to convince you about how unfulfilled your personal life is during late night TV.

Some Dating Insights Gained:

1)     In conventional dating, it is frowned upon when people have more than one person on the string at any one time.  With online dating, it is expected that people will go out with more than one person to test the waters to see if the pseudo-chemistry that they feel for the person when interacting online will actually translate to physical chemistry when they meet in person. Most people in the online dating community understand that you may interact with 10 people in real life before you feel any spark at all, and they may in fact not end up being the love of your life anyway.  Maybe more technologically oriented people are more fickle, or perhaps they are just more pragmatic but they do get the fact that if you only deal with one person at a time, and it takes you a week or two before you get comfortable enough to meet them in real life. So if you have to meet 10 or 20 people to find someone that you might want to get more serious with, then it would take years if you do not actually do some multi-tasking in the dating department. Playing the field is a defence mechanism in the online arena. Because of the anonymity of the sites, you cannot tap into you normal social networks to find out about the people you are talking to online, or dating in real life. There is a much higher chance of being taken in by a smooth talker. It is also easy to give your heart away to a loser. Keeping several people “in process” at the same time helps you from “settling” on any one of them prematurely. In conventional dating situations, other than blind dates, you have some concept of how a person interacts with others because you usually have a chance to observe them in action from afar. It is one of the reasons why blind dates get such a bad rap, because you do not know what to expect, nor can you prepare yourself. Online dating does allow some interaction, but meeting in person for the first time has more of the hallmarks of a blind date than it does in conventional dating.

2)     Online Dating is much more superficial – pictures and videos are everything – without them you get almost no action, or attention.  Ladies about having less than average looks. If you do a good job of portraying yourself in both words and pictures of someone who loves to have fun, you will get positive results.  For both men and women, this is a marketing exercise – the key here is not to take a crappy looking big-nosed picture of yourself staring into your web-cam’s fish eye lens – everyone already knows that you stare at your computer a lot because you are on an online dating site in the first place.  There is no need to supply a picture of you in such an unflattering pose. The key is to portray an image of you as a person who has fun interacting with other people, animals, children, sports events, etc. If you are a woman, just remember that men see and assume – most do not read much, they look and evaluate visually for the most part, so keep the words to a minimum. If you are a man – pay attention to the words as best you can – look for the “must not be” things that many women pre-qualify their profiles with, and do not annoy them if you are a “must not be” person.  Women are generally strong communicators; hopefully having to read “likes long walks on the beach” for the umpteenth time will not make you lose your cookies.  In any event, for both sexes, keep the brief and factual (within limits of course – this is marketing after all). If you are lucky, you will find another with a complementary sense of fun and similar interests. Be prepared to use the email and chatting facilities of the online site to get to know people better. Do not over write or over work your profile.  Your profile is a 15 second ad spot, not an biography of your life.

3)     Men without strong advancement prospects, or God forbid, no jog at all will find it difficult making much headway on some specialty dating sites where people are focused on success. In their heads, women are looking for winners, not losers. On the other hand, if you can connect with a woman physically, they will often overlook the fact that you are do itinerate day labor, as long as you can show yourself to be someone with future prospects.  Keep your personal financial status out of the conversation if at all possible. If the person keeps insisting on focusing on that particular statistic, they just might be a gold digger

4)     BBW women are as disadvantaged as they think they are. If a women is slightly overweight, or is of a set of proportions that the weight that they carry is evenly distributed, most men are okay with it. As long as you keep yourself in decent physical shape, you have an excellent chance of establishing a lasting relationship with a man. In any event, most women will post a profile of themselves at a younger and lighter age, and then proceed to lighten the age load a few years on top of that in their profile.  Men, although quite likely to lie about their income, are, almost to a man, truthful about their age. You will find however, that men almost never tell the full truth about their body weight. Almost all men show themselves as athletic, or average, almost never as overweight in any manner.

5)     Love does not actually happen online – love can only happen after you meet.  You either totally connect and love someone, or you do not. It is the daily interactions and small interpersonal body language signals that are at the root of love. If you meet someone online, they will likely want to meet in person within two to four weeks. If you take longer than that to get up the courage, you will likely miss the boat anyway. So if you are too cautious in online dating, you will most certainly fail.

6)     There is still a social stigma associated with online dating. The reputation is that people who use such sites don't have a real life. They are social outcasts, ugly people, and deviants. Nothing is further from the truth. Even so, people using such services are reluctant to be associated with “losers”, or, they may be careless with their safety.  The reality is that many millions of people have successfully used online dating sites. You are likely at more risk of being stalked on facebook as you are on a modern dating site. Most people who meet and fall in love online do not broadcast how they met to the world at large, so all you hear about is the people who were not successful on dating sites. This leaves a bad negative impression of the online dating industry in the public eye. People will admit that they met in line getting an unemployment check, but they will not admit to meeting online for some reason.

7)    The real power of dating sites is their ability to match people up who are in completely different social circles, and therefore would never have met through any conventional means. Since everyone is there for the same reason, and since it is possible to simultaneously be interacting with several people at once, you really do have a much better chance of finding someone that you are truly compatible with for the long term. These social dating sites are the ideal place for busy professionals or single parents. Who has the time to hang out in bars with a bunch of underage teens with forged identity? There is not enough hours in the day, so if you want to meet someone, then you should take your search online to make more productive use of your limited time. If you want to find successful and interesting people, then online dating is truly the wave of the present, and the future. The road to future happyness will still have a few nails, so you will likely still get your share of flat tires. No matter though, just keep on trucking.


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Top 10 Dating Sites

You find yourself at the dirty end of a personal life altering situation and you are determined to do something about it.  Depending on the nature of the event, the new road you want to walk down may prove to be difficult to navigate.  We all handle life and what it gives us differently.  What is a non-issue with some people will cause a lot of angst in others.

How you deal with life's challenges is not some secret formula you can pull out of a recipe book someplace. It is up to you to decide how you will deal with every bump in the road that life deals you. The worst thing you can do is to dig a hole and bury yourself in grief or misery.

If it is a personal relationship breakup that is your latest negative challenge, you might decide to toss your hat in the ring again and get on the horse and ride again (wow – how many trite expressions is that in one sentence?). In reality, you may take some time to reflect, but in the end, the only right answer is to go out there and meet someone new. It may be accidental, or it may be planned. If it is planned, then the most likely place for you to meet up with someone compatible is on an online dating site. It is amazing to to think that you might find the love of your life inside your computer.

You will discover that with all the top dating sites at your doorstep, the daunting task of perusing through thousands of profiles is an enjoyable challenge. It is a good thing that dating sites make it easy for you to zero in on the select few hundred that will match your personality.

You’re out of your divorce finally, and you deem it okay now to get back out there.  All you need is your coffee and your keyboard and you’re all set to relax and sift through the endless matches you’re going to find online.

The dating market can seem a little daunting.  Once you start looking it gets a lot simpler because not only can you find lists of the top 10 dating sites but reviews on them as well.  Likely you know what you want for the most part though, so it's just a matter of getting to it.  The nice thing is that these sites are designed so that it takes little effort or thinking on the part of the user to get results. 

Personals sites keep looking for you day and night. If anything, you might end up being annoyed at just how many matches that they will find for you each day.  In the old days, if you were placing personals ads in newspapers, you might consider advertising in more than one if you really wanted results in a hurry.  People usually did not put all their eggs in one basket, so they tended to spread their advertising around as much as possible. Similarly, you will want to put your profile up on several different dating sites to maximize your exposure in your area. 

It really makes sense to spread your profile out far and wide, and doing it on all the top dating sites is just being strategic and smart.

If you are ready to give online dating a try, here is a site that will give you the most recommended internet dating sites.
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How To Stimulate A Male Orgasm

 The male orgasm can be a complex experience, the major function of the male orgasm is the ejaculation, however some men do not ejaculate with orgasm. The female orgasm is however still a bit of a debate as to why it happens, some believe it is only to help the sperm along on their journey toward the egg (ovum).

 Most men have little knowledge with their G-spot, some men don't know that they have one. Some of you will be surprised to learn that the male prostate is in fact the equivalent to the women's G-spot. Not many people out there are acquainted with this fact. It is also easier to find the male G-spot. For some people it may seem weird to explore that area, but if you keep an open mind about it you could experience the best orgasms you could ever hope to have.

FINDING THE MALE G-SPOT

The male G-spot is not that troublesome to locate, however, it does require a little patience. It is between the rectum and the bladder. Lying on your back is about the most convenient way to reach it, so you will likely want to use a bed or a large chesterfield. The process will be easier by elevating your legs slightly. You may also want to try putting a pillow or two under your derriere  to make it easier to reach the right spot. For neophytes take your time and use a gel. Then gently insert a finger into the anus and probe slowly, you will know when you have reached the prostate gland when you come across the chestnut sized lump that is roughly about a finger length inward.

If your partner is on his back your palm should be up, it is actually a good idea to use a rubber glove, but lacking that, make sure that your fingernails are not sharp, and wash your hands thoroughly afterwards before touching yourself anywhere. Keep in mind that not all men like prostate stimulation just as many females love having their G-Spot massaged and others find it distracting. Once found and properly stimulated it will provide men with an orgasm that is more dynamic than they have ever had with regular intercourse.

Prostate milking as it is also called also enables the man to have multiple orgasms that are longer in duration and gives them the ability to ejaculate without being sexually excited before hand. It has been noted that the orgasms achieved this way can be 4 times more exciting and can persist for five minutes. It provides what is known as a full body orgasm.

THINGS TO CONSIDER
 Before you and your better half engage in prostate stimulation or milking, it would be best if you take the time to do it slowly and gently. Some people will actually have a nice hot bath before they proceed. Using a finger is the best way to locate and provide stimulation to the G-spot if you are afraid or you are a beginner, there are sexual devices you can purchase that can enhance your experience as well. You should mixing techniques as well. Rubbing the penis while stimulating the G-spot is one option.

SOME MISCONCEPTIONS

It has often been believed that for a man to stimulate his own G-spot is unnatural or gay, which is the main reason why it is seldom talked about. G-Spot stimulation is as normal as having intercourse, it is not sick, strange or perverted, and it is not only for homosexual men. There is nothing  wrong with enjoying the pleasures of self stimulation. As a very powerful sex gland it can cause a very dynamic orgasm, and it is entirely normal to experiment with it.


“BE CAREFUL”

There are some risks associated with prostate milking if it is not performed correctly|. Excessive force on the prostate gland could lead to serious health conditions such as Gangrene, Hemorrhoidal problems, Blood poisoning and Transferring prostate cancer to various parts of the body. The amount of recommended pressure on the G-spot is comparable to the amount of pressure you would use to rub your eyes with.

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Dates For Open-Minded Ladies

Once in a while, the universe will smile on a single man and hook him up with an open-minded and adventurous woman in his dating life. This is a woman who is not likely to be singing in the church choir on Sundays if you get my drift.  If you hook up with a lady of this nature, you have to go to crazy places on a regular basis. Here are some suggestions if you’re ever lucky enough to get one of these women to go out with you. Have fun!

Nudie Bar

If your women has any sorts of bi-sexual tendencies, she will likely jump at the chance to go to a strip bar. I mean, she will likely enjoy the action as much as you! She might even buy you a lap dance, and vise-versa! There are some memories to last a lifetime! If you notice that you are getting more attention than usual from the strippers when you are with your girl it is not your imagination. Many strippers dig undressing for other women. Some of them are also bisexual and into threesomes. See if your honey would like to be that kinky. 

A Trip To Your Local Sex Shop

If you’re at the point in your dating relationship with the kinky lady, a great date idea is the adult shop. Go to a bar before the adult shop, and have a drink or two.This will loosen both of you up even more, and by the time you get to the store, you’ll have few inhibitions left. Then you can walk through the aisles and find out what makes her blush. If you see something sexy, tell her you would like to buy it for her. Ask her if there is anything that she wants to get for you? If you are not pushy, you will find that you can easily while away a couple of enjoyable hours. At the end, you might be surprised with what she wants to buy. Just go with it. Be aware that quality sex toys and outfits can put a serious dent in the pocket book. But if there’s anything that is worth the dough, it’s a sex toy!

Role Playing

Sex shop costumes are great for role playing sex. There are lots of cute outfits that are just begging you to slowly take off of her! Most women love it when a man slowly undresses her, and having her reciprocate with you is really cool She can play “Nurse Naughty”, “Sex Teacher”, “Marion the Librarian”, almost anything.

The best way to pick the role to play is to write them all down on separate pieces of paper, and then pick them out of a hat or something.


S&M Parlor

If she is really edgy, you might want to try some BDSM. Best to do this in a BDSM parlor though because they have most of what you need.  Most BDSM is just a show, and not usually painful, so do not be turned off by it.  Do not be afraid to go just because you have never done it before. Most BDSM parlors will help newbies so that they will become regular clientele.



Enough ideas. I will stop now before I bore you. In the off season, most Halloween shops have  sexy costumes to rent as well, so you do not have to have a huge closet full of clothes You may want to even try a murder mystery night out. The right mystery might have you participating in interesting ways. The key is to make it fun, interesting, and above all KINKY!

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Fun Dating Advice for Men

Online Dating

There are thousands of dating sites on the Internet, ranging from excellent to scams. Many are small mom and pop shops where some technical person is trying to cash in on the lucrative dating market. Many dating sites are not free, and some that pretend to be free are only free for some minimal functionality.

Most sites will let you view other profiles, but you will have to pay to interact with other members. But even if you do end up paying to contact someone, who ends up being the love of your life, that would likely be a pretty good deal. If you are interested in online dating, follow the link below and it will take you to a site that lists the best sites on the internet.

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Free Dating Sites

There are literally thousands of dating sites on the internet. Many are just scams. Many are small mom and pop shops where some technical person is trying to cash in on the lucrative dating market. Many dating sites are not free, and some that pretend to be free are only free for some minimal functionality.

In most sites, to contact someone you are interested in, you have to pay. But even if you do end up paying to contact someone, who ends up being the love of your life, that would likely be a pretty good deal. In any event, the link below will take you to a location with listing of the best online dating sites on the internet.


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